Recipe for Hope for the Male Race
So, here is the thing. Sometimes being single sucks. Most of the time the whole feminist-independent-artist-dreamer-bohemian-agitator is awesome and I love it. But, then sometimes the moon is full and I wish that there was that companion, that best friend, that love thang.
And after a few in-the-moment mistakes for serendipitous, I've decided to give myself a concrete guide as I seem to be going around like that Dr. Seuss book, "Are YOu My Mom?" But not in that incestual way. But, looking at guys and thinking hmmm... are you a possibility? So here's the deal, if I figure out what I want and what I don't want, I'll be better able to identify the qualities...
Recipe:
1) Must have an incredible smile
2) Athletic (or enjoy physical activity and value good health - when I find this guy I want him stick around for a while)
3) Must be kind. This means so much to me - that a person would do something for spite is not cool, although in the past I know I have - so this is something I want to hold myself to, also.
4) Not be an alcoholic - occasional beer is cool, not one a day, not drinking to get drunk. Plus I can't stand beer breath.
5) Passionate about at least one something - have that curiosity and intensity for something that really gives him joy in life - a hobby, job, past time, activity, etc. I love trying new things and think that I really love seeing new things through art - its my translator for my life and the way I experience it. That is something that I do to bring joy into my own world. It roots me and aligns my energy. Energizes me. This is also something I love sharing with other people.
6) Must be able to make me laugh. Laughter heals so many things and feels great. That laughing until your sides hurt is the best.
7) Between the ages of 19 and 35. No exceptions. Why: bad experiences on both sides, I think at the position I am in in my life, I want to be able to share and learn with someone on a level playing field. Although I have been told that I am a"segregator of age," I am willing to take the chance. It's a pretty big gap there even, depending on life experience.
8) Be able to pursue dreams - and encourage and support my dreams. Emotional support. That constant hope that the other is truly doing what they dreamed they would do. Or to help you work towards getting there.
9) Romantic underneath it all. I am about as stubborn as they come, and would deny it if asked in person, but I am a romantic at heart. Ya, I want the flowers just because and the long walks and curling up together, and the special meaning dates, the suprises and the things that don't cost money but show a lot of thought was put into it. Kind of contrasts with the feminist sometimes.
10) Spontaneity: To run in the rain when its pouring outside and scream for the sheer delight of pounding puddles on wet pavement in bare feet. To be that comfortable with someone to just let it all out is awesome.
11) An appreciator of art
And after a few in-the-moment mistakes for serendipitous, I've decided to give myself a concrete guide as I seem to be going around like that Dr. Seuss book, "Are YOu My Mom?" But not in that incestual way. But, looking at guys and thinking hmmm... are you a possibility? So here's the deal, if I figure out what I want and what I don't want, I'll be better able to identify the qualities...
Recipe:
1) Must have an incredible smile
2) Athletic (or enjoy physical activity and value good health - when I find this guy I want him stick around for a while)
3) Must be kind. This means so much to me - that a person would do something for spite is not cool, although in the past I know I have - so this is something I want to hold myself to, also.
4) Not be an alcoholic - occasional beer is cool, not one a day, not drinking to get drunk. Plus I can't stand beer breath.
5) Passionate about at least one something - have that curiosity and intensity for something that really gives him joy in life - a hobby, job, past time, activity, etc. I love trying new things and think that I really love seeing new things through art - its my translator for my life and the way I experience it. That is something that I do to bring joy into my own world. It roots me and aligns my energy. Energizes me. This is also something I love sharing with other people.
6) Must be able to make me laugh. Laughter heals so many things and feels great. That laughing until your sides hurt is the best.
7) Between the ages of 19 and 35. No exceptions. Why: bad experiences on both sides, I think at the position I am in in my life, I want to be able to share and learn with someone on a level playing field. Although I have been told that I am a"segregator of age," I am willing to take the chance. It's a pretty big gap there even, depending on life experience.
8) Be able to pursue dreams - and encourage and support my dreams. Emotional support. That constant hope that the other is truly doing what they dreamed they would do. Or to help you work towards getting there.
9) Romantic underneath it all. I am about as stubborn as they come, and would deny it if asked in person, but I am a romantic at heart. Ya, I want the flowers just because and the long walks and curling up together, and the special meaning dates, the suprises and the things that don't cost money but show a lot of thought was put into it. Kind of contrasts with the feminist sometimes.
10) Spontaneity: To run in the rain when its pouring outside and scream for the sheer delight of pounding puddles on wet pavement in bare feet. To be that comfortable with someone to just let it all out is awesome.
11) An appreciator of art
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